If you spend some money and buy quality glass items, they won’t break. While many people are intimidated by glass, glass is actually a great material to use.
Hard, rough items with little or no “give” are not ideal. Remember, if it’s going in your butt, you want it to be soft and smooth. If you’re willing to spend some money, you can find extremely soft, spongy, flexible silicone toys that are great for assplay and stretching. The great thing about premium silicone is that it varies so much in softness and hardness. Some TPE (thermoplastic elastomer) and TPR (thermoplastic rubber/resin) toys are fine, but I find that they get sticky and dirty, and cannot be cleaned as thoroughly as silicone (you can bleach silicone, not TPE or TPR). High-grade, soft silicone and thick, heavy glass make the best sex toys. Whatever you use, make sure it’s nontoxic and phthalate-free. I generally avoid plastics, since I try to limit the number of toxins that go in my body. It took a few years, and I’m still training, but today I’m a fist bottom and can take XL (and XXL) penises pretty easily. Gradually I built speed and tried larger and larger plugs. I stuck with this rhythm: in, pause, out. I got better at bottoming when I took a small butt plug (about four inches in circumference) and slowly slid it in, waited, and slid it out again. In contrast, a rounded object like a butt plug forces your hole to stretch open and close, and is better for training yourself to experience - and enjoy - the stretch. A cylinder will open your ass to a certain diameter and keep it there. Keep this in mind: A dildo is essentially a cylinder. Don’t go for those rough, “realistic” dildos with sculpted veins and ridges. Classic rocket-shaped or teardrop-shaped butt plugs are great - anything that gently tapers from a wider, rounded section to a narrow one. Basic, simple shapes without many ridges, bumps, or extra features work best. I recommend training with small, smooth butt plugs. Chugging beer (or any kind of liquid) requires you to engage the same throat muscles as deep-throating.
Do this on your knees while looking up at the ceiling, or - even better, but more intimidating - lie on your back with your head hanging slightly off the edge of the bed, so that your throat is aligned with your mouth, and have him slowly enter.Īlex Robboy (CAS, MSW, LCSW, and founder of Sex Therapy in Philadelphia) has this pro tip: Imagine yourself chugging a beer. Take breaks and stop when you want to stop. Try both sides to see which works better.Īt moments of discomfort, pause, breathe through your nose, and see if you can go further. You may find it more comfortable to slide his dick to the left side. Slide his penis along the roof of your mouth slowly to the back of your throat. The risk of choking yourself - getting something stuck in your airway - is not worth it. Unlike some internet self-described “experts,” I do not believe you should slide items down your throat, so ignore the advice-givers who suggest practicing with a banana or a dildo mounted on the wall. You can train to minimize your gag reflex, and that is best done with a patient partner. You cannot train the throat to open much more than it can.
The throat has limited stretch capability, and you shouldn’t push it. The fact is, you can train your butt to take things much larger than a “hulk-sized penis.” This process is the same way people train for more extreme assplay and fisting. This is for very advanced play and should not be attempted when you’re new. Over time, if you want to explore depth, you’ll find that deeper sphincters - deeper holes that lead to sections higher up into the lower parts of your small intestine - can be opened too. The anal sphincter - the tight circular muscle at the base of your rectum, also called your “hole” - will stretch and loosen. Feel your muscles relax and adjust to the size. Whenever you come to a moment of discomfort, stop and take slow, deep breaths. If there’s a lot of blood or if you’re in pain, take a cue from Fredy Alanis and go to the ER.Īs you practice and build in size, you’ll develop the skill to comfortably take (and enjoy) larger things in your butt. Until they heal completely, anal fissures are open gateways for sexually transmitted infections like HIV. Most of them will heal on their own after a couple weeks if you leave your butt alone and take a sex/toy break. These are small tears in the rectrum that are usually painless, but not always. Keep with that one for a bit, then go bigger.ĭon’t rush - going too fast, or too large too quickly, can cause injury. Once your beginner-size insertable becomes easy to take, purchase one slightly bigger, and give it a try.